I just wanted to share three gentle tips for the moments when we feel caught in self-doubt.
Self-doubt is just one word for something that is a very human and very common experience. It might resonate more for some to call it 'overthinking', 'stressing out about what others think of me', 'self-consciousness', 'nervousness', 'anxiety', or 'feeling too [awkward/weird/boring/stupid/young/old/different/intense/clumsy/weak]'.
- Ask yourself: Am I really looking at myself objectively, or am I seeing myself in a biased way? What if we are all just humans trying to make life work and feel good, and we are no better and no worse than anyone else?
- Support yourself: Think of someone who has supported you in the past. It may be a teacher, a pet, a friend, a grandparent, or someone you only met once. Remember how they made you feel supported, how they cared about you and wanted what's best for you. Imagine what they would say to you right now that you are feeling self-doubt, and then receive that message or hug or cuddle sincerely.
- Remind yourself: You are not your thoughts. It is safe for you to feel anxious. You have felt anxious before. You can look at this doubt for what it is: a thought, a physical event in your brain. It is not who you are, and it does not determine your future.
I hope you find these helpful.
Please comment if there are any specific areas you'd like to get more tips on.
With warm wishes :)