Should I still send my family happy birthday etc messages to them each year when they Ignore me 24/7?
Just stuck on whay to do. I've helped them in the past financially, loaned them £3000, which after 4 years still waiting for £2000 back and they've treated me like dirt (me basically being Cinderella with ZERO THANK YOUS with living with my stepparents (my stepmum my late father married and my stepfather (my stepmums husband)
I still feel this enormous sense of guilt and anxiety about the whole thing, but I still feel obligated to since they're my family
I've always made qn effort-to message them, phone them buy them expensive gifts help them out and be roo scared to tell them no for fear they'll make me feel bsd, saying some other girl is respectful to their parents they don't do that, or I can't believe the nerve of you etc and guilt trip me!!
I've decided to finally,at 27 years old, to cut them off completely no seeing them trying to call and text them as I always get ZERO response and always come to their voicemail answering machine. It was just exhausting and tiring and I just feel alienated from them so I don't see the point in getting disappointed from them my whole life.
They never saw me last Christmas, I spent it alone and was kindly invited out by my my best bfriend who cared that I was with people (who actually like and care about me) during the holidays!
For my birthday last year and this year my stepfamily never bought me anything, and my stepmum never bothered to see how I was on my late father's 10 year anniversary since he passed away-finally responded to my messages 3 days later. I was obviously crying and upset that day, none of my biological and step-family cared!
So now am I in the right to completly cut off my stepparents and stepfamily? (The only time to talk to them is ask for my £2000 they still owe me back that I kindly loaned to them in August 2018?)
Just need some non-judgemental answers for some advice please xx